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Thousands, maybe even millions, of people dream about being a world traveler. Often though, it just stays as a dream. Could it be so that it requires something to overcome fears and take us out of our comfort zone and take the leap and really do it?

When you try get out of your comfort zone your roadblocks may seem overwhelmingly big, but remember,there are always ways to pass them

When you try to get out of your comfort zone your roadblocks may seem overwhelmingly big, but remember,there are always ways to pass them

Have we been totally comfortable every time when we’ve been on our way to leave for a trip? Definitely not! There’s this first stage of excitement and anticipation, when we’re happily planning our next adventure and use all our time to get things into places. Then, the closer the departure, the more excited we get, but also the more “the buts” turn up. What we’ve also noticed, every time, is that just before we leave we start to appreciate our home a lot: “Aren’t things good as they are? Why don’t we just forget about this and stay home this time?”, “should we really leave everything for such a long time and now when we also have kittens” or ”when the apple trees are blooming?” or “shouldn’t we really stay here and renovate the kitchen instead?” (and these may seem like small buts, but I can assure you, they have been accompanied by loads of much bigger ones).

There’s this Swedish couple who write and publish travel guide books called “Willma” (like a Swedish version of Lonely Planet). They travel the world regularly for their business and pleasure and they say that every single time they’re on their way to leave on some new adventure, they ask themselves –why- and try to persuade themselves to stay at home this time. And every single time, as soon as they have turned the key in their front door, there’s no more hesitation. Now they’re on their way, they’re travelers, and they almost forget they even have a home in Sweden.

To me, this is a great picture of taking yourself out of the comfort zone. When you’re on the verge of doing it, you try as hard as you can to talk yourself out of it. How great your old way of doing things or of being really is! When you then resist the urge to stay in the old and take the leap, everything changes. You usually don’t even remember why you stuck to your old way and realize that it wasn’t so difficult to take a new step at all, you just did it!

And have we regretted overcoming fears and taking our leaps and leaving things to go out into the world? Not one single time! Rather the opposite. We ask ourselves, again and again, why was this so difficult? How could we even think it would be better staying at home? And very often, almost every single time, we’re so happy traveling and being somewhere else, we don’t even want to go back.

“People who stay in ‘comfort zone’ do so sometimes more because of fear than comfort.”
- Thomas Leonard

So, we may call this whatever we want, fear of the unknown, fear of change or “you know what you have but not what you’ll get”, but it can be good to remember, when you find yourself wondering if you are losing your sanity taking your whole family around the world or whatever leap you’re planning, that there’s a part of you that will do whatever it can to keep you “safe” and in the familiar and well known. And you can be sure that that part, that little voice, will let you know it’s there. And then, it can be good to bear this in mind and to follow the advice I got myself the other day regarding doing something outside of my own comfort zone: “you may do it trembling – but do it!”

I want to finish here with some wise words from Wade, an experienced world traveler who we interviewed a while ago – you can read the whole interview here. When we asked him if he had any advice to people who dream about going out into the world but experience resistace and hesitation, he said:

“Everything always works out. The great thing about leaving is that you can usually return to the same place where you are standing right now. Have faith that you will figure everything out when you need to, and rest your mind about planning. Nothing ever works out according to plan anyway, so why waste the mental energy bothering with it. The adverse consequences of traveling that you may foresee are merely illusions. You are not nearly wise enough to foresee the future, so stop trying — go forth and see what happens.

It is my impression that the human capacity for planning for the future is a very rudimentary development that usually only serves to provoke fear and to hamstring any desire that we may have for change. If anyone thinks about their future they get scared — “what if this happens, what if that happens.” You know what? “what ifs” rarely ever really happen. Humans tend to be intelligent enough to make the most of their situations when they are in the moment, and often have the ability to sidestep any “what if’s” when they need to be sidestepped. You will be alright.

Fear is an emotion that is reserved for the potential occurrence of future adversity. When in a moment of adversity, fear is rarely ever felt. I know that I have often felt fear about future possibilities — about being robbed, about getting lost, being cold etc . . — but every time I have been in such a circumstance, fear is the last thing that I felt, as I was much too busy focusing on how to get out of the bad situation to be scared. Fear is a survival instinct only in the fact that it keeps you sitting where you are, it keeps you way out of danger. When in a bad circumstance you automatically figure it out, and usually leave the moment saying, “Wow, that was not that bad after all.”

When given free range, fear will keep you sitting right where you are forever and ever and ever. It is amazing that many people would rather be comfortable, hemmed in by fears of future occurrences, than to really find out what the future may hold. There are no “what if’s” in a moment of adversity, so why leave yourself hampered with “what if’s” when the horizon is clear and the sun is shining?”

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What’s your ideal lifestyle? Who do you want to be – a world traveler? What do you want to do and have?

Tim Ferriss author of "The 4-Hour Workweek"

Tim Ferriss world traveler and author of
The 4-Hour Workweek

These are some of the questions Tim Ferriss, author of “The 4-Hour Workweek” encourages you to consider if you want to create an independent lifestyle. If you too are interested in living a life outside the 9 to 5, a life where you among other things can choose where and when you’d want to work, then you can get some really good tips from this short video.

In short, there are 4 steps you can take to help you to unplug and reset your life:

1, Define your ideal lifestyle

What do you want to be, do and have? We think it’s crucial to take the time to reflect upon this. Try to step outside of whatever you have around you and tune into the you behind all the layers of musts and shoulds. Who are you? What are you passionate about? What’s that dream you’re having that keeps coming up again and again? What did you dream about when you were a kid?

2, Eliminate everything that interferes with this ideal lifestyle like stuff, interruptions and people.

I guess you’ve already noticed you have quite a lot of things around you that you really don’t need, or even want. Things, and people as well, that really takes up your time and holds you back from being what, and where, you’d rather be. Start to declutter, on every level!

3, Automate, delegate or outsource everything that you don’t need or want to do yourself.

What don’t you want to be doing yourself and what could you actually delegate or outsource so someone else? How can you make your life more automated? Today we have the big advantage of being able to use technology to help us with so many things and not having to do everything ourselves. Part of this is also to unplug and not use technology all the time, like checking e-mails every other minute. Learn to use it to your advantage!

4, Liberate yourself to get used to all your excess time and see how you want to use it.

The idea of making these changes is of course to get more free time. But, what do you want to do with it? Knowing what you want to use your time for, instead of being at work or working for yourself more than full time, is also important. It’s time to dream again. If you have an excess of time what do you want to do with it? Spend it with your family? Write that book of yours? Starting a new career as a world traveler? All of the above?

Watch this short film with Tim Ferris and get some more ideas and inspiration…

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This morning when I looked out the window I saw – snow! I really didn’t know if I should laugh or cry at this white, actually rather Christmassy view. I used to love snow and always just had to take a long walk every time it was snowing with those huge flakes. It’s a very special feeling, being outside in a totally white world. Wherever you look, you only see white. And when it’s snowing in that special way, with those big, dry, fluffy flakes that slowly falls to the earth, it has some kind of insulating effect so everything gets totally quiet. Except for the sound of the flakes, you can actually hear when they crash into each other and when they land on the ground.

Will these world traveler have a white Christmaas this year?

Will these world traveler have a white Christmaas this year?

This can be a really magical moment, as long as you can be with it and not start to think about the result of this nature phenomenon. Like how difficult it will be to drive to the shop. And, “will they be ready with the snow plows? And if this continues, will it make the tree branches so heavy that they’ll break and fall on the telephone wires again and cut out the phones? Well, nowadays we always have the mobile phones and Skype…

Wouldn’t it be much nicer to be in Southern Spain or someplace else instead? As the world traveler I am at times, do I really have to put up with this”?

Anyway, I started to think about all the Christmases that we had spent traveling abroad. I realized we’d had been celebrating Christmas both in warmer climates as well as in places with similar weather to what we’re used to from home.Here’s what I came up with, places where we have had the privilege to experience a different way of celebrating this holiday seasons (well, not always very different)

A totally Christmas free holiday in Sri Lanka

A totally Christmas free holiday in Sri Lanka

Mallorca – this was like a Swedish summer although you didn’t want to go swimming in the Mediterranean at this time of the year.

Sri Lanka – actually one of my most memorable Christmases ever, without any traces of Christmas, absolutely fabulous, love this country!

Grand Canaria, the Canary Islands – Magnus actually moved here with his parents when he was a child. GC is very European but climate wise more like Africa so there’s no problem spending the holiday on the beach

Bethlehem, Israel – On Christmas Eve it is something really special!

Austria – huge amounts of snow and the skiing was absolutely fantastic, best skiing ever! Also extremely romantic with horse sledge rides and snow covered “chalets”.

Canada – very similar to Sweden, both the weather and the Christmas celebration, except for the fact that you open your presents on the 25 (in Sweden we do it on the 24th)!

One of our favorites at the market in the old town in Nice, the olive stand!

One of our favorites at the market in the old town in Nice, the olive stand!

France – We spend some time in Provence one year and this time we had a Christmas tree decorated with Provencal patterned ribbons, lavender bags and whatever typically French we found. We had the market just outside our apartment balcony and man, the food you could buy there. French food in fantastic in general but at Christmas (we don’t eat the typical oysters and foie gras though).

Spain – This is like our second home so we have spent several Christmas holidays here (whole winter seasons, actually). We always go to the most Southern part which is the warmest and, as we see it, where people are more relaxed then in northern Europe. The climate is great in the winter (unless you want to do lots of swimming in the sea), the culture is interesting and you get to practice one of the worlds biggest languages. And it’s close to Africa!

No Holly in France, Mimosa instead

No Holly in France, Mimosa instead

England – When we spent the winter in England (why you may ask, but we did have some good reasons) we actually celebrated 3 totally different Christmases in 2 days. First the Swedish way on the 24th. The next day some friends invited us to come along to a “Christmas dinner” at a big Hare Krishna place (bought by George Harrison, the Beatle and given to them) where our friends were invited for special reasons. The same evening, we celebrated again with our friends, but this time in “the proper” English way.

Wow, thinking about this really puts me in my world traveler mood and makes me want to go away. It’s a bit short notice now though so I think I’ll start planning for next year. Or I start by thinking about what I would like my life to look like in a year.

What are you doing this holiday season? Any traveling plans? If not maybe it’s time to start planning for next year. Start imagining where you would like to go? What would you like your perfect holiday season to look like?

In a whole year, you’ll have lots of time to plan your dream trip and have all things fall into places. Why not let a Christmas trip next year be the start for your long term journey, and maybe, for your new life?

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